Cross Your Legs if You Can’t Handle It
Today’s blog is highly controversial. You don’t have to agree with me. Just know that you will not change my mind on this matter. Especially if you plan to use belittling or name-calling as your method. So just don’t try.
I have been enormously disturbed lately at the direction our country is going in. Even more disturbing are huge numbers of people who just don’t get it.
Let’s start with the new bathroom law in North Carolina. Simply put, one must use the restroom that corresponds with their sex at birth. This immediately throws up all kinds of red flags to somehow who knows sex is way beyond black and white(or male and female as it were). What about intersex individuals? For those who don’t know, that’s a person whose genitals are not fully male OR female at birth. For decades doctors have forced parents to choose their child’s sex at birth. It is only now becoming acceptable for parents to be given the option to take their baby home and find out in time what the true nature of their child is or, better yet, wait until their child can tell them if they’re a boy or a girl. So, these people were not born with a sex at all. They were ASSIGNED a sex. Big difference if you ask me. India actually has a word for this that is even used on drivers licenses. Yay, India!
There’s also the issue of transsexuals. Let’s be clear here with my particular references because even the Internet can’t seem to give clear definitions. A transgender is someone who was born as one sex but who not only identifies as the opposite sex but who has also taken drastic measures toward BECOMING that sex (from what I’ve been told, someone in the early stages of transition is more likely to be extremely discreet and cautious of bathroom usage until they can be undetected so as it to cause trouble). A transsexual is someone who used to be a transgendered person but has now had the full sexual reassignment surgery and now has the gentialia of their true sex. According to this law, it doesn’t matter. Someone who was born a woman, became a man, and has had the necessary surgery to now have a penis is supposed to go in the women’s restroom. Likewise, a former man who has been surgically granted a vagina must still go in the men’s room; vagina, boobs and all.
So, how the hell are they planning on enforcing this? Soon you’ll hear about the amendment to this fucked up law that requires everyone to carry their birth certificate with them to prove to the guard at the door which room they belong in. Otherwise, you’re not likely to know.
Now Target has released a statement reiterating their gender neutral bathrooms. For those who think this is new news: you’re wrong. This has been a long-standing policy for Target. They simply chose to make a stand in regards to it to show that they support the transgender community.
So, how have I come to a place of acceptance in this? Research, experience, and a true want of knowledge. Also because I know someone who is a full blown transsexual. I’ve known him since he was an eight year old girl being called a freak because “she” preferred more boy-like objects and activities. I watched him go through puberty. It’s hard enough to go through it being exactly who you look like. He went through it completely baffled by everything and so confused as to what it all meant and had no one to talk to about it all. I was there when he finally realized he isn’t a girl. He’s a boy. And not just a boy; a homosexual boy. I was around before, during, and after his transition. If you saw him today, you wouldn’t dare tell him to go to the women’s room. He’d scare the hell out of everyone in there, because he’s clearly a man.
To be frank, every person out there who is so offended by us supporters; those who claim we’re giving “perverts and rapists” a free pass, needs to open their fucking eyes. Transgendered people have been around for decades. You’ve been peeing next to them all your life. The only difference now is that they’re no longer in hiding. The world, and man kind (mostly), has evolved to understand and accept that this is just something that occurs in life.
To address the pervert rapist speech I’ve heard so much I could recite it: there has never been a barrier at the bathroom door. If a predator decided to attack in the bathroom, they’d wait until the opportune moment and strike. They wouldn’t care how anyone looked. Bathroom attacks have happened a thousand times before, and none of them claimed to identify as transgender. Transgender people only want to pee in an environment that they don’t feel threatened in. Too bad NC had to go and make them feel threatened regardless of the door they walk through.
And the worst suggestion I’ve heard through all of this is to just give them their own bathroom. There are two major flaws in this. First, no establishment can suddenly materialize an extra bathroom in their space. They would have to reconstruct and entire section of their building. Second, the very idea of this sets us back more than half a century!!
Separate but equal used to be a thing. It used to be accepted as totally normal (to the white majority). It used to be seen as something to “keep our children safe”. Today? It’s seen as one of the most abhorrent times in our country. Slavery probably takes the cake, and the utter destruction of native Americans takes top marks too, but this by far the worst thing to happen in our recent history.
We once saw blacks as somewhat less than human. Are we now suggesting the same thing about people whose physical appearance doesn’t match their biological reality?
To me, this is unacceptable. We simply cannot backslide like this. We still have huge race issues in our country and now this. Not to mention the new outlet bullying has found in social media. People are becoming so ugly and it makes me sick. Let people pee. Let people be who they are. Worry about your own damn self. And if you’re so freaking worried that your kid will become a target, keep them fit, teach them self defense, and give them a tool to alarm others nearby when they’re in danger or feel threatened. Women have been taught to do that for years anyway. Don’t use something you’re afraid of or ignorant of be the scapegoat for why you aren’t teaching your child these things.